I started this blog in order to keep friends and family up to date on my life as a Mom of 3 kids. And for prosperity sake as well. I'm sure I'd love to read back on this in a few months/years to see just how I coped with certain situations. And to laugh at myself and the stress I'm sure will be self inflicted.
10 days ago today I had my third child Samuel Cooper Girven. We call him Cooper. The name fits him well. We also like to call him "Coop." He is the mellow third baby. Cries only when he's getting changed and when he's hungry. He sleeps well and doesn't need much other than attention and food. This is good because I also have a 4 year old smarty pants going on 13 year old son and a 17 month old Pterodactyl. Why Pterodactyl? Because her screech can pierce human ears and terrify anyone.
These 10 days have been interesting to say the least. Ben had to go back to work the day after we brought Cooper home, so I was pretty much thrown into the whole 3 kid thing immediately. I've had some rough days and I'm sure the kids have too. Dade is use to being around kids all day and is bored out of this mind. He's also learning the hard way that we don't always get what we want when we want. Leia is learning how to play the system and is also learning she's no longer the baby. It's been bitter sweet as we had a nice routine going on and now there is chaos. I'm enjoying having my 3 healthy beautiful kiddo's but this is only day 10 and it's still a little new to me and I'm still healing phsically and emotionally. Let's see how the next month goes.
It will be kind of chaotic from here on out.. but it's a blissful kind of chaos most days. Not the kind that will make you go crazy! lol. You learn how to juggle the three... somehow. You'll have your days where everything just goes together like clockwork and then you'll have your days where nothing goes right and you wonder how you're going to make it, but you do. I'm always here if you need to talk or vent! (((hugs))) congrats!!!
ReplyDeleteYou can do it Wendi!! I know you can! Your blog is so pretty, I love the background, and am looking forward to reading your adventures as a mommy of 3!!
ReplyDeleteWell I can't personally advise you on being a mother of 3, since I'm only a mother of 2, unless you count my twin puppies,but a very dear friend of mine Sandra did have 3 girls, and she totally mastered the art of kids and life management.
ReplyDeleteI see in her that the key to her success with her children, is that she mantained a very special 'quality time' with each child individually. Those kids are almost all grown today, and they not only totally respect their mother, but they also love one another deeply.
Time management will be the key to your success. Know in advance how much time you have to alocate, and divide it nearly equally among your priorities. You will find true balance and harmony. I also want to share something I just learned on my recent trip to Shanghai. While taking an intensive course on teaching English to foreigners, I discovered the art of 'beating the clock'. For the majority of the course, I was pulling all nighters out of work load or a coughing all night husband, and teaching on no sleep with little energy, until I discovered...."the art of beating the clock". Here is what saved my ass: sleep an hour, work an hour, sleep an hour, work an hour. I actually had 100% optimal conistent energy, and accomplished what needed to be done. Granted this particular formula might not exactly work in your case during daytime hours with kids, however, it most certainly can work for you during night time hours and when your man is home manning the ship.
Try to accomplish what you need to get done for yourself and your home on 'late shift'
give your quality undivided attention to your day shift patrons....your children.
When your children are happy and satisfied, so too will you be. The key to a stress free life is to eliminate the stressors and mantain balance, at all costs...
maybe even start a mommy and me group at your home, and encourage eachother to stay physically fit, and also help one another out with child care, so that you can have a cooling off period for yourself...
when Ben does get home, make time for yourself to 'escape the daily grind' and either pamper yourself, or just get out of dodge, and do something different.....
good luck...and the more you have, the more you can handle. It takes some getting used to, but it makes you stronger.
xoxo Fran